My brother studied electrical engineering at York university, and settled there afterwards. The term after he finished I began. I followed my academic strength of chemistry. The whole decision was socially and academically the lowest risk of any alternatives.
Difficult early experiences might cause denial. Correct healthy paths through emotional damage are complex for children. Later in life denial can manifest as avoidance, both suggest nonconfrontation.
Famously, Hermann Hesse said, "Wisdom cannot be imparted..."
More commonly we hear, "you can't put an old head on young shoulders."
Accepting advice is brave because it involves trust.
I once read that success came from happily and regularly taking advice. The assumption therefore is that people generally mean no harm, and on balance taking advice is a good tack because bad or malicious advice is rarer than the positive. Therefore, logically, trust leads to success more often than not.
At university I was disinterested and lazy. I joined no clubs, drank too much, and regularly smoked hashish. In line with denial, I didn't quit cannabis when it started to make me feel anxious.
My university friends were unmeaningful. After graduation, with a single exception we immediately lost touch. Despite being popular in the first year, I became reclusive and interested in computers again in the second year. This should have been a warning sign. Cannabis and computers were quite an interest for me before university. I turned to the latter when school friends began chasing girls. I didn't feel ready.
My personality change at York was typical of a mood disorder, but this was the in the 1980s when mental health issues were somewhat ignored.
With the modern emphasis on mental health awareness, psychiatry's radar surely would have intervened for me earlier, had I been born later.
My personal feeling is that awareness has gone too far now, and it may have caused a public diluting of the severity of serious psychotic issues, through a cultural explosion of people wanting mental health diagnoses too. I think there is a more or less direct growth parallel with social media. It's a contentious subject and not one I have properly studied.
The video on this page holds an abridged reading of Susan Jeffers' gigantically well regarded book, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." It was recommended to me long ago.
I'm now confident that I have most of that book's wisdom, but If I'd accepted that initial suggestion, I might have embraced and employed the ideas earlier. At worst, all I stood to lose was some time and effort.
I think I didn't read it because I identified with my psychiatric label. The young me considered the book common and off-the-shelf. I was too mysterious for it to be relevant!